Decisions, Decisions

Decisions are very important in a humans life.  Everyone makes decisions; good ones, bad ones, all different kinds of decisions. Just because someone has the ability to do something doesn’t mean that they always should do it. Anyone can get up and jump out of their window, but [most people] don’t.  Anyone can give away all of their money, but no one does that – and I know this for a fact.  So the normal [smart and not weird] person would apply this to essentially everything they do and choose what is best.  For the people who don’t fall under that category, they choose to do the ridiculous like eat things off the ground.

Many people don’t think others notice what they’re doing, but we do.  Its actually repulsive. There is nothing sanitary at all about it.  You’re eating off the ground. Thats where people walk with their shoes that step in plenty of things that you would never want to put in your mouth daily.

Then there are the people that say “oh it doesn’t matter, everyone eats a little dirt in their life.” Okay, last time I checked, eating food of the ground was a bit more than a little dirty. Its just not right and absolutely disgusting.

Another thing that come to mind is where people sit.  It drives me crazy when people come over and decide that their gonna sit right on my pillow – that i sleep on.  Then when I get mad at them, they wonder why , as if they don’t realize where they sat throughout the day and how many other people or things that could have been where they sat.  Especially after people sit down on the ground, then expect to sit on my bed or pillow,  I gladly offer them the ground to sit on.

Some might be thinking that I;m being critical, but I’m not.  Im simply trying to not get sick and to be sanitary in the first place. So, next time you see someone eat something off the ground or sit down on a pillow, please correct them and make them do the right thing.

Yours Truly, JHDM

Catching Our Breath…

Almost two weeks since a significant blog post. We apologize. But school has started, and we’ve been trying to find time to blog, but it hasnt been working to well. Anywho, I saw something this weekend that has been pissing me off for a while. And something that happens a lot at my school. I call it the Femagnet. Its something you don’t want to be attracted to, and kids tend to do it a lot.

Almost every weekend, girls will be on campus. And on most weekends, there will be a large amount hanging around. But…not really. You cant really tell when girls are on campus because their usually in the middle surrounded by dudes. Just to make sure youre not jumping the gun, there has to be a guy with a lacrosse stick, thats when you know a girl is in there somewhere. 10 times out of 10, there is only one guy getting with that girl, so I dont see why the other dudes feel the need to accompany them. Those guys are Femangetities. A man who hasn’t seen a female in however long, and fails to avoid the magnet. Making them, Femangetities. Fin..

Teenage Mutant Ninja Rapper

Weve been slacking since school started, i know, and I’m sorry. But last night Chris Webby dropped the highly anticipated “Teenage Mutant Ninja Rapper” which features the homie Mic Galper. Track for track is ill, not gonna lie. Its heavy, CTs hometown hero is about to be killling it soon

DOWNLOAD: TEENAGE MUTANT NINJA RAPPER

Hey There Buddy…

A few days ago, while reading The Savages by Joe Kane – one of my assigned summer reading books – I overheard my neighbor having a pretty interesting one-sided conversation ( I wasn’t trying to listen, but I couldn’t focus on the book and that was the only noise being made). It went on for quite a while, and for a while I was wondering who exactly my neighbor was speaking to. For a while I thought he was on the phone, but then it was quite obvious that he wasn’t. That being said, I began to think he was talking to a baby or a toddler, but I never heard any cooing, so it was clear that it wasn’t a baby. About seven minutes (approx.) into the conversation the mystery person, or should I say organism, was a dog. Yes, a DOG.

This did not upset me in any way, I was simply blown away. I was thinking … how in the world can someone have a full blown conversation with their dog? I’ve heard the occasional …”good dog” … “you’re the best dog in the world” …and the “I miss you“s here and there. But an ACTUAL conversation?! I couldn’t believe it. This guy was going into specifics, asking his dog how his day was and what he liked and disliked from the day. Did he really think his dog was going to answer him? I mean, I understand that people love their dogs, I had a dog, I know what it feels like, but I can honestly say that I have NEVER had a real IN-DEPTH conversation with my or any of my friend’s dogs.

It was truly a very unique experience. It was my first and I definitely count on it happening again because if this guy is doing it, I know other people are.

Yours Truly, JHDM

P.S. I need to address this – Letting dogs kiss you on the face (anywhere on the face) does not fly. That is not okay and there is no way on earth that is remotely sanitary.  But that is a different topic and I can’t start thinking about that too much or I’ll get sick.

Macs Are Not For Blacks

Every time I try to do a video chat at night, I am always shut down. Not by my friend, but by my computer.  Just a while ago, I wanted to do a video chat with a friend of mine (Allie, who is in fact of Puerto Rican descent) from Miss Porter’s.  I could see her perfectly, but unfortunately, she could not see me – at all.  My light was not on, but I thought that the computer light and the light coming from my television would be enough to make me visible, but I was clearly wrong. Now I could understand if i was really dark, but I’m not, I can honestly say that I’m definitely not dark, but I’m not very light.

So, in my anger, I thought back to all of the other times my Mac has failed me.  It brought back memories from the times I had people over and we wanted to do video chats with friends, times when I tried to use Photo Booth with friends, and also times when I attempted to make movies with iMovie.  The fact that I cant enjoy a simple video chat with a friend without turning a light on aggravates me to the point that I don’t even want to get up to turn the light on in order for the person to even see me.  Actually, I don’t even feel like engaging in a video chat anymore that night.

Since Apple constantly pumps out new computers essentially on a bi-yearly basis, I would love to suggest them to finally make an ‘African American Friendly’ Macbook or maybe even a Darker Skinned Compatible Macbook.  But please, don’t misunderstand me, I love my Mac. I live by it and I would never – EVER – buy a PC.  If Apple addressed my issue with maybe something like an even brighter screen, or just a better camera, they would make my Mac experience an even better one than it already is.

Yours Truly, JHDM

Fear

For those who havent heard, So Far Gone will be re-released on September 15th as an EP. The beat is so chill. And he spits the truth like always. A year ago, he was on his rise to stardom, and to see where hes at now is incredible. Enjoy

Drake – Fear

Jay Staffz ft Ashley De Carvalho & Drew James – Cant Say No

You dont even know. Like this is the homie, Jay Staffz is the homie. One thing I can say about this dude is that, if he were ever to be cocky and arrogant, he has all the right to. What hes doing right now, for Toronto as a whole is ridiculous. You can hear the beauty in this song and its far beyond your standard song. Ashley is amazing. Simply, amazing, and beautiful. This is what How To Accompany Strangers will sound like. Becuase Staffz will be on my mixtape, he will. Anywho, the song is beautiful, thats all I can say, and I know most of you will like it. Ashleys voice is sooo..ahhh. And the sample is on key.

Jay Staffz ft Ashely De Carvalho & Drew James – Cant Say No

Recognize the Real

maybe the ‘crazy ‘people are actually the sane people..maybe they are the people that are in touch with whats really there…but the sane people like most people, what they see is not reality…maybe not. anyone who sees the truth is crazy …like insanity can characterized by violations of societal norms. but if those societal norms are to be blinded from what’s there, then the insane people must be the only ones seeing the truth. social norms aren’t blind to anything…the people who make social norms dont even exist…social norms exist as a dream 99% of the population aspires to live..therefore social norms are just the true desire of most societies..but societal norms are a LIE. they make people be normal which holds them back…from the truth.

4,000 Reasons…

This is Light Work. Everytime you hit us up, you just make it easier for us to breath. Beleee Dat

Love Without A Limit

Lauren & Andrew, sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G, first comes love, then comes marriage, the comes Lauren with a baby carriage.

I’m not sure if this little schoolyard tease is universal, but I know I grew up with this until 5th grade or so. To say, “I love you” to someone is a big step, relationship wise. We live in a world where age gives us the ability to begin life. We aren’t legal adults until we’re 18, the legal age for sex is also 18, and we cant drink till 21. But how many of us actually follow these laws? How many of us have had sex before they were 18? How many of us have consumed alcohol at least once before they were 21? Obviously, not everybody has, but more than 70% of teenagers have. What is life without pushing boundaries, testing your limits, or even doing the opposite of what you’re told. I don’t see why, adults, who were once teenagers, see us differently because of their mistakes? The times obviously change, and I don’t understand the reason for some of their reason.

I recently had a conversation with a homie that was a family friend, he baby sat me and everything. And I just got word that he got married. We talked today, and we were catching up over the years, and he’s a 29 year old Dentist out in San Diego. I asked him a numerous amount of questions, like “were you nervous proposing?, howd you know you were ready?, do you think you made the right choice?”. He laughed, because deep down he knew he was once in my position. He ended up marrying a high school sweet heart. As he went on to describe the whole process of what knowing she was the one, proposing, and going through with it, he told me something that may have changed my life. “Love has no limit. Its something everybody needs, and something everybody will receive in their life. Obviously there are different forms of love. When you start to feel the feeling, youre young, and eventually, the final stage of love, is death. Prior to dying beside your partner, marriage is where you begin your new life with your life partner”

This sort of opened my eyes up a little bit. I knew this guy since I was three, and for him to give me this kind of wisdom explains exactly what love does to someone. They were married for a year, but then he converted to Judaism and remarried her. He told me it was worth it, and it got me to thinking, why would anybody whos already married, change their religion, and remarry again? Then he said, “Once youre married, youre a team. Its not about you anymore, and its not about her. Its about our future, and our family” I was still shocked that I was hearing this, the dude that told me when I was 14, get as much as you can, and bang it out while youre young.

The first wedding I attended was my cousins, and I was about 9 or 10 years old. Thinking about it now, it was a beautiful thing, having a church filled with more than 5 races coming together for the sake of love. The next and last wedding I attended, was my moms wedding. I was 11 at this time. It was small, not as grand as the wedding i’d previously attended, but even at a smaller wedding, you can still feel emotions from both the bride and groom.

Bringing me back to my first statement, are you ever to young to realize youre truly in love? I think with something like marriage, nobody ever thinks their ready, and sometimes the result is a mistake in itself. A lot of people get married for different reasons, and sometimes it isnt always love. I dont want to get to ahead of myself, but hearing all of this made me realize I want to age gracefully with an amazing woman

The homie Photo Will also opened my eyes when he said “I never realized how lonely Ive been until yesterday (referring to a wedding). Yea, I do know a lot of women, but not very many stand out and the ones that do, dont always work out. Im still hoping to be married by 30, have some kids, have my own home. I want to be a loving husband and make my wife feel special. I want kids to drop my bag and run to me when I get home from work. I want to tuck them in and read them bedtime stories. I want to send flowers to my wife while she’s at work. I want to re-marry her years after we’ve been together. I want to be in a relationship where love only grows” And Will is 24…

Another homie of mine, Andrew, told me he lost all respect for women after this summer. His reasoning was valid, and there was truth to what he was saying, but I also realized that women also see us in that light. Im not going to get into detail about what he said, but just know, your mistake can lead a whole other path of mistakes for someone who was looking for guidance. You have to try for yourself, listen to what you think is cool with you, oppose to the opinion of others around you.

We all learn for others mistakes. And we all fear others mistakes. Commitment…Commitment the word men fear is in the way of love. As much as one may try to hide it, you need support, you need love, you need somebody there with you in order to grow and succeed. I would want to believe that I can make it without anybodys support, but Ive already tried, and failed. So you can say I’m sort of speaking from experience. You could be down and out, you could have lost everything youve had, but I think that if you have love in your life, no matter what kind of this emotion, you will see the upside of down.

Summer is coming to an end, and most of us are slowly coming back to reality. Summer relationships are now over, and its time for many of us to go back to school to either continue where you left off last year, or start a new beginning. For others, I advise you to commit, I want you to take chances. You only live once, and what doesn’t kill you, only makes you love.